
A lot of people will tell you to journal in order to process your feelings. It’s a worthwhile pursuit. I believe in the power of the written word, no matter who is doing the writing. But journaling, for me, was never really the way I wanted to express the things that I was feeling. So I turned instead to writing poems.
Sometimes the poems are exactly what I want to say on the first draft. Sometimes they require revision. Sometimes they are so bland and ordinary that there is nothing worth revising. Sometimes they say nothing of consequence. Sometimes they say everything in just a few words. Sometimes they ramble.
I haven’t written many poems over the past ten years, but occasionally, poetry feels like the best way to process what I’m feeling. I find that when the dark parts of life come to roost, a poem can say what I need to say better than any other media. In a poem, I can be honest and authentic in ways that I can’t in an essay, an open letter, a short story or a journal entry. I can draw the reader (and myself) further into my pain through a poem. I can show my true self. I can use it to heal.
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How Grief Works
I lost my father-in-law during the advent season in 2023. His absence from our life is still poignant. There are times when my husband and I look at one another and say “I wish Ron was still alive.” A man like my father-in-law leaves a huge hole when he is gone, one that is hard…
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Soft
How does one remain soft when Out of necessity She has had to yell into the face Of a fellow pilgrim on the journey “To hell with you” While they both continue to walk Towards the same Heaven? How does she not let the heart-hardening of Pharaoh Become her bread and butter Drinking the gall…
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Visitation
I like to think that he is you Though his red crest is unlike your gray curls And his feathered wing is not like your fragile hands But he sings and chirps and flutters as he feeds And it makes me think of you laughing While we do nothing, waiting for supper For the night…
